Love Letter to the ENBY BB's

Thank you for slowing me down. And for encouraging me to put down what does not work and play with what I am unsure of. Thank you for the confidence to say no. When I realized that I wanted to change my body, I began to sink into a tank of trans expectations. Thankfully, I made friends with a group of gender queer, glitter butch, trans fags that held me up, while I reimagined myself with more creativity and integrity. This is a love letter to all of you. Thank you for slowing me down. Thank you for unveiling the gag of gender! I love every one of you gender fucking, non binary, trans and GNC bb’s -you reimagine life for all of us. 


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Letter to my Siblings

Letter to my siblings,

I am writing this letter to you during the time of a global pandemic. As I write I know at least one of you who is sitting at home in self-isolation with a family who does not, will not see you.  I know what it’s like to be unseen and to live a life that is fractured. And I know that you are trying to find any way you can to survive. Maybe you’re coming the internet trying to find people like you. Maybe you’re scouring the pages of any book you can find or a movie or tv show that tells a story…a face…. a body….skin…a love like yours. 

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Love Letters My Brothers


The Brown Boi Project is 10 years old! We are celebrating with conversations about affirming masculinity, love, friendship and mentorship.Is there a friend, mentor, partner, or family member who embodies what healthy and affirming masculinity means to you?We are asking for letters! Your letter can be addressed to an individual, group, or community. Please submit your letter to: [email protected] Please include your first and last name, pronouns, a picture and contact info if you want it published with your letter. Letters can also be submitted anonymously.

Submissions will be accepted on a rolling basis and reviewed the first week of each month.

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Farewell, Fam: With Love and Gratitude

I “officially” joined the BBP fam in August 2010, when I came on as a volunteer inspired by the transformative vision of building a world where masculinity can not only be beautiful but liberatory. It was inspiring to engage in critical dialogue and practice around the intersections of my masculinity, feminism, blackness, and queerness with others, instead of alone in my head. Before BBP, I often felt there was no place for me – my complexity, my desire to no longer be complicit in patriarchy while at the same time embracing my masculinity.

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“They” and the Emotional Weight of Words

Language is the space in which we carve a place for ourselves, where we demand to be seen. A reflection point for culture, community, and family to acknowledge our existence on our terms. For decades, “butch” was the only identity and term available to those of us who identified as “masculine of center.” Like many others, I lived in that space. There was much about it that I loved: the community of brotherhood, the worship of femininity, the gentility of the old-school butches. Yet, like so many other words, butch failed to capture the full depth of my soul. Its White cultural origins and resulting denial of my Black body took its toll.

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